Giving and Receiving

Article title: Giving and Receivingand practitioner in the client's vibration.
If true selfishness leads to selflessness, then perhapsFeeling good while another feels horrible almost
receiving must come before giving.seems insulting, like the white-gloved aristocrat who
In order to give, one must first receive. If you arerefuses to get his hands dirty while others do all the
not yourself feeling joy and love, what you are givingwork. However, that feeling of inappropriateness is
to another may not be of much value. In otherjust the result of non-matching frequencies. It
words, it's important to feel good yourself beforecertainly is true that in a roomful of sad people there
you try to help another! This is a little fact which Iis vibrational "pressure" to feel sad as well, but that is
have often overlooked, and which has caused meonly because the amplitude of that signal is very
some painful set-downs. I have noticed that whenpowerful indeed. In other words, there is nothing
I'm purely resonating to well-being, others come toinevitable about feeling crummy even though
me voluntarily and are really interested in what I haveeveryone around you feels that way. Every person is
to say. When I set a vibrational example to others,sovereign in his or her own experience, so it possible
there is an instinctive, and positive, response. But(and desirable) to keep your balance when others
when I'm helping because I feel that it's required, orhave lost theirs. Once you show yourself you can do
when I'm not really into it, or when I'm trying to "fix"it, and notice the positive results which appertain,
someone, I'm not really very effective. I wind upyou'll never feel guilty about maintaining your positive
bringing others down to my level.vibe even when confronting tragedy.
Receiving before giving (as I'm defining it) doesn'tThe subtle energy which I've been calling life force
mean refusing to love another until they love youenergy may have its physical counterpart in
first, or declining to give Uncle Harold a birthdaytheoretical physics. Some frontier scientists believe
present this year because he forgot yours last year.that space is not empty at all, but a seething
It doesn't mean grabbing as much of the pie as youcauldron, or flux, of virtual particles, and have called it
can before anyone else. All of these actions arethe 'active vacuum' or 'quantum particle flux.' Some
based on a consciousness of scarcity and lack, andscientists have estimated that there is theoretically
are guaranteed to bring more scarcity into your life.enough energy in a cubic centimeter of the vacuum
The receiving I'm talking about is vibrational. Just as ato run all of the industries on earth for many years.
battery cannot provide power without first beingIn this theoretical model, the planet earth is
charged, a person cannot give effectively unless hesurrounded by energy which may eventually be
or she is feeling positive emotion. Consciousnesstapped and utilized. In this model, we live in an open
interfaces with life force energy, batteries interfacesystem, not a closed one.
with electromagnetic energy!A good example of a closed system is a typical
The feeling of giving is just a connection to orelectrical circuit. Electrical generation is accomplished
allowance of life force energy. It results when youby constantly feeding the generator with more
feel prosperous and abundant yourself. When youenergy as the source dipole is destroyed by the back
feel fulfilled, you just naturally want to share withemf of the spent electrons in the closed circuit. A
others.closed system like this always requires more energy
Receiving has less to do with physical objects than itinput than is output. A battery, even if it is
does with a state of being. The difficulty is thatrechargeable, will eventually drain and be come
we've been taught how difficult it is to feel good,useless.
and how easy it is to feel rotten, but it's just theAn example of an open system is a windmill or a
opposite! Feeling good is the default - all you have towaterwheel which can take huge amounts of 'free'
do is open up to the universal ocean of life forceenergy from the environment. "Free" energy doesn't
energy that surrounds you.mean violation of the law of conservation of energy.
Physical objects are often used as substitutes forIt just means you tap into the energy which exists in
that connection to source. The giving and receiving ofthe active environment, so you get more energy out
presents makes it easy to feel good, for whenthan you put in. A water wheel, for example, uses
looking at something pleasing outside yourself, it isthe flow of a river to turn a paddle and generate
easier to remember the inherently joyful personelectricity. A windmill uses the power of the wind.
that's hiding inside.You have to put an initial energy investment of
However, like the guy who says one thing and doescourse to build the paddle wheel or windmill, but once
another, material objects may not be an accurateyou've done that you have a continuous source of
representation of our true feelings. For example,power.
Aunt Hilda gives you a card on your anniversary, nowWhether or not it is possible to extract energy in
you feel obligated to reciprocate. You don't reallyusable form from the vacuum, all beings have the
want to, but you do because it's polite. To you,ability to tap into the subtle energy stream of life
sending a card represents an obligation because Hildaforce and become an amplifier of it, because
is not one of your favorite relatives. Interestingly,consciousness interfaces directly with it. This energy
when viewing things from the perspective of ourstream has also been called prana, or chi, and has
vibrational model, the card itself will have little effectbeen understood by almost every culture that has
on your relationship with Hilda. The non-localever existed on planet earth. Access to this energy is
characteristics of vibrational interaction suggest thatfree and effortless, and it doesn't require complicated
Hilda is not likely to view your gift with enthusiasm ifmachinery or government funding!
you have sent it with the vibration of "I'm only doingYour supply of happiness, joy, or well being depends
this because I have to." In other words, the physicalonly on how much of it you ask for and how much
object is less important than your vibrationalyou allow in. Happiness, joy, well being, or any
orientation.positive emotion is not a depletable resource. It's free
This may seem like a strange and even delusionalenergy that can be tapped into at any time.
statement, but if you carefully examine your ownHow do you tap in? By opening up and asking for it.
relationships from the viewpoint of consciousness andEverything in the universe is composed of this
energy flows, it may begin to make sense.energy. The human energy field is a field of well
The kind of receiving I'm talking about is not physical,being, and everybody has one. Meditation, for
it's energetic. Of course the physical object is veryexample, is just a process of stopping the flow of
important, simply because it's tangible. But physical"junk thought" and becoming receptive to your
objects do not determine the way we feel aboutpersonal subtle energy field. It's not any more
ourselves or about others. When Beauregard Cliftoncomplicated than that! Receiving your full complement
Densmore IVth receives a new car for his 16thof life force energy is as simple as thinking and doing
birthday, he is very upset. "But mumsy," hethings that make you feel good. There are a BILLION
complains, "I specifically requested the blue Bentley,reasons not to, so just ignore them. (You don't get
not the grey one!" I remember one of my old chumsinto trouble when you ignore the bad stuff, because
in grade school got a new bike. He thought it wasit becomes deactivated vibrationally within you).
awesome, but his parents were upset because theOn planet earth there are lots of "Now I'm supposed
bike was a gift from his uncle, with whom they'd hadto's" and "Now I have to's" that others have decided
an argument. Same object, two entirely differentare good for you. But you are not a cog in society's
reactions!wheel! You are a sovereign, independent being
"Receiving must come before giving" just means thatcapable of deciding for yourself what's best for you.
it is helpful to first feel the love before you outflow.A vibration of well being and abundance can only
And if you aren't feeling very loving, then your givingattract manifestations which mirror it. Therefore, a
is probably not going to provide a lot of comfort onfocus on well being MUST bring forth a positive
the other end.response from the universe, a response which
In order to give effectively you must communicatebenefits you, and everyone else as well. This is true
effectively, and in order to do that you have to befor an individual, or a whole planet full of people. In
real to the other person; in other words, you have toother words, no harm can possibly come to another
be in vibrationally proximity. If you want to helpif you receive something from a positive vibration of
someone in grief you can't walk in whistling a happywell being. If our brother has been in perfect health all
tune. However, it is possible, and necessary (like Jill inof his life, do we accuse him of depriving someone
the previous chapter) to maintain a firm connectionelse of health? It sounds ridiculous, but that is the
to source while accessing the lower emotional levels.sort of mind-set that exists on our planet! If Stephen
In fact, that is the only way to raise tone, forHawking is a genius, do we tell him not to hog all of
without establishing a vibrational potential there canthe intelligence? These examples are exaggerations,
be no movement up the scale. This is counseling atbut they serve to illustrate the idea that although
its very best! (This is the system that Dr. Rosenbergmankind is very good at dreaming up more and more
uses in his Non-Violent Communication methodology).ways to amplify scarcity, the universe contains an
In other words, it is up to you to be the positiveinfinity of abundance. As with health and clarity, so
pole in the relationship.too with prosperity, no matter what form it takes.
It turns out that ALL help is vibrational/emotional help."If everyone on earth asked for and received
For example, you join a group which passes out foodabundance, all of our resources would quickly be
to the needy. This is a very helpful activity, butexhausted, and pollution would destroy our planet."
without a vibrational movement on the part of theThat's if the status quo (fossil fuels) continues.
recipients up the scale, conditions for them will notHowever, the reason we have scarce fossil fuels is a
change. You will constantly be catching fish, insteadconsciousness which mirrors scarcity into the physical
of teaching how to fish. This again is a simpleuniverse. When that consciousness shifts to one of
application of the Law of Vibration and the Law ofprosperity, cleaner and more efficient sources of
'like attracts like.' Help in the form of physicalenergy will be developed in response. It is silly to use
assistance only postpones the inevitable vibrationalthe status quo to argue for the impossibility of a
reckoning, for life experiences (Flows 1 - 3) areshift in consciousness, when it is a state of
determined by what occurs on Flow 0.consciousness which is responsible for the status quo!
Before giving, you have to fill your tank first.Is it really "better to give than to receive?"
When you receive, however, you do not depriveGiving without first receiving drains a person's
another.reserves and causes stress. And it's no wonder that
It's always possible to fill up at the gas station ofit does, for the idea that it is better to give than to
positive emotion without harming anyone else. Youreceive is unbalanced. Receiving automatically opens
don't have to come cash in hand and exchange forthe energy stream not only for you, but for
your share. It's not possible to run out of life forceeveryone else. Have you ever been in the presence
energy, so gorge yourself. The better you feel, theof someone truly joyful? It just feels so good! That
more valuable is your service to others.is what happens when a person connects to the
It is always appropriate to feel good, no matter theenergy of life.
circumstances.The primary attitude should be to allow one's self to
Some feel that it is inappropriate to feel happinessfreely receive, which allows giving from a sense of
when others are sad. Some counselors feel that injoy and love. Receiving must come before giving.
order to be there for the client, they must feel theEven in a closed system, a battery cannot supply
client's pain, but this only serves to stick both clientenergy unless it is charged.