| Article title: Giving and Receiving | | | | and practitioner in the client's vibration. |
| If true selfishness leads to selflessness, then perhaps | | | | Feeling good while another feels horrible almost |
| receiving must come before giving. | | | | seems insulting, like the white-gloved aristocrat who |
| In order to give, one must first receive. If you are | | | | refuses to get his hands dirty while others do all the |
| not yourself feeling joy and love, what you are giving | | | | work. However, that feeling of inappropriateness is |
| to another may not be of much value. In other | | | | just the result of non-matching frequencies. It |
| words, it's important to feel good yourself before | | | | certainly is true that in a roomful of sad people there |
| you try to help another! This is a little fact which I | | | | is vibrational "pressure" to feel sad as well, but that is |
| have often overlooked, and which has caused me | | | | only because the amplitude of that signal is very |
| some painful set-downs. I have noticed that when | | | | powerful indeed. In other words, there is nothing |
| I'm purely resonating to well-being, others come to | | | | inevitable about feeling crummy even though |
| me voluntarily and are really interested in what I have | | | | everyone around you feels that way. Every person is |
| to say. When I set a vibrational example to others, | | | | sovereign in his or her own experience, so it possible |
| there is an instinctive, and positive, response. But | | | | (and desirable) to keep your balance when others |
| when I'm helping because I feel that it's required, or | | | | have lost theirs. Once you show yourself you can do |
| when I'm not really into it, or when I'm trying to "fix" | | | | it, and notice the positive results which appertain, |
| someone, I'm not really very effective. I wind up | | | | you'll never feel guilty about maintaining your positive |
| bringing others down to my level. | | | | vibe even when confronting tragedy. |
| Receiving before giving (as I'm defining it) doesn't | | | | The subtle energy which I've been calling life force |
| mean refusing to love another until they love you | | | | energy may have its physical counterpart in |
| first, or declining to give Uncle Harold a birthday | | | | theoretical physics. Some frontier scientists believe |
| present this year because he forgot yours last year. | | | | that space is not empty at all, but a seething |
| It doesn't mean grabbing as much of the pie as you | | | | cauldron, or flux, of virtual particles, and have called it |
| can before anyone else. All of these actions are | | | | the 'active vacuum' or 'quantum particle flux.' Some |
| based on a consciousness of scarcity and lack, and | | | | scientists have estimated that there is theoretically |
| are guaranteed to bring more scarcity into your life. | | | | enough energy in a cubic centimeter of the vacuum |
| The receiving I'm talking about is vibrational. Just as a | | | | to run all of the industries on earth for many years. |
| battery cannot provide power without first being | | | | In this theoretical model, the planet earth is |
| charged, a person cannot give effectively unless he | | | | surrounded by energy which may eventually be |
| or she is feeling positive emotion. Consciousness | | | | tapped and utilized. In this model, we live in an open |
| interfaces with life force energy, batteries interface | | | | system, not a closed one. |
| with electromagnetic energy! | | | | A good example of a closed system is a typical |
| The feeling of giving is just a connection to or | | | | electrical circuit. Electrical generation is accomplished |
| allowance of life force energy. It results when you | | | | by constantly feeding the generator with more |
| feel prosperous and abundant yourself. When you | | | | energy as the source dipole is destroyed by the back |
| feel fulfilled, you just naturally want to share with | | | | emf of the spent electrons in the closed circuit. A |
| others. | | | | closed system like this always requires more energy |
| Receiving has less to do with physical objects than it | | | | input than is output. A battery, even if it is |
| does with a state of being. The difficulty is that | | | | rechargeable, will eventually drain and be come |
| we've been taught how difficult it is to feel good, | | | | useless. |
| and how easy it is to feel rotten, but it's just the | | | | An example of an open system is a windmill or a |
| opposite! Feeling good is the default - all you have to | | | | waterwheel which can take huge amounts of 'free' |
| do is open up to the universal ocean of life force | | | | energy from the environment. "Free" energy doesn't |
| energy that surrounds you. | | | | mean violation of the law of conservation of energy. |
| Physical objects are often used as substitutes for | | | | It just means you tap into the energy which exists in |
| that connection to source. The giving and receiving of | | | | the active environment, so you get more energy out |
| presents makes it easy to feel good, for when | | | | than you put in. A water wheel, for example, uses |
| looking at something pleasing outside yourself, it is | | | | the flow of a river to turn a paddle and generate |
| easier to remember the inherently joyful person | | | | electricity. A windmill uses the power of the wind. |
| that's hiding inside. | | | | You have to put an initial energy investment of |
| However, like the guy who says one thing and does | | | | course to build the paddle wheel or windmill, but once |
| another, material objects may not be an accurate | | | | you've done that you have a continuous source of |
| representation of our true feelings. For example, | | | | power. |
| Aunt Hilda gives you a card on your anniversary, now | | | | Whether or not it is possible to extract energy in |
| you feel obligated to reciprocate. You don't really | | | | usable form from the vacuum, all beings have the |
| want to, but you do because it's polite. To you, | | | | ability to tap into the subtle energy stream of life |
| sending a card represents an obligation because Hilda | | | | force and become an amplifier of it, because |
| is not one of your favorite relatives. Interestingly, | | | | consciousness interfaces directly with it. This energy |
| when viewing things from the perspective of our | | | | stream has also been called prana, or chi, and has |
| vibrational model, the card itself will have little effect | | | | been understood by almost every culture that has |
| on your relationship with Hilda. The non-local | | | | ever existed on planet earth. Access to this energy is |
| characteristics of vibrational interaction suggest that | | | | free and effortless, and it doesn't require complicated |
| Hilda is not likely to view your gift with enthusiasm if | | | | machinery or government funding! |
| you have sent it with the vibration of "I'm only doing | | | | Your supply of happiness, joy, or well being depends |
| this because I have to." In other words, the physical | | | | only on how much of it you ask for and how much |
| object is less important than your vibrational | | | | you allow in. Happiness, joy, well being, or any |
| orientation. | | | | positive emotion is not a depletable resource. It's free |
| This may seem like a strange and even delusional | | | | energy that can be tapped into at any time. |
| statement, but if you carefully examine your own | | | | How do you tap in? By opening up and asking for it. |
| relationships from the viewpoint of consciousness and | | | | Everything in the universe is composed of this |
| energy flows, it may begin to make sense. | | | | energy. The human energy field is a field of well |
| The kind of receiving I'm talking about is not physical, | | | | being, and everybody has one. Meditation, for |
| it's energetic. Of course the physical object is very | | | | example, is just a process of stopping the flow of |
| important, simply because it's tangible. But physical | | | | "junk thought" and becoming receptive to your |
| objects do not determine the way we feel about | | | | personal subtle energy field. It's not any more |
| ourselves or about others. When Beauregard Clifton | | | | complicated than that! Receiving your full complement |
| Densmore IVth receives a new car for his 16th | | | | of life force energy is as simple as thinking and doing |
| birthday, he is very upset. "But mumsy," he | | | | things that make you feel good. There are a BILLION |
| complains, "I specifically requested the blue Bentley, | | | | reasons not to, so just ignore them. (You don't get |
| not the grey one!" I remember one of my old chums | | | | into trouble when you ignore the bad stuff, because |
| in grade school got a new bike. He thought it was | | | | it becomes deactivated vibrationally within you). |
| awesome, but his parents were upset because the | | | | On planet earth there are lots of "Now I'm supposed |
| bike was a gift from his uncle, with whom they'd had | | | | to's" and "Now I have to's" that others have decided |
| an argument. Same object, two entirely different | | | | are good for you. But you are not a cog in society's |
| reactions! | | | | wheel! You are a sovereign, independent being |
| "Receiving must come before giving" just means that | | | | capable of deciding for yourself what's best for you. |
| it is helpful to first feel the love before you outflow. | | | | A vibration of well being and abundance can only |
| And if you aren't feeling very loving, then your giving | | | | attract manifestations which mirror it. Therefore, a |
| is probably not going to provide a lot of comfort on | | | | focus on well being MUST bring forth a positive |
| the other end. | | | | response from the universe, a response which |
| In order to give effectively you must communicate | | | | benefits you, and everyone else as well. This is true |
| effectively, and in order to do that you have to be | | | | for an individual, or a whole planet full of people. In |
| real to the other person; in other words, you have to | | | | other words, no harm can possibly come to another |
| be in vibrationally proximity. If you want to help | | | | if you receive something from a positive vibration of |
| someone in grief you can't walk in whistling a happy | | | | well being. If our brother has been in perfect health all |
| tune. However, it is possible, and necessary (like Jill in | | | | of his life, do we accuse him of depriving someone |
| the previous chapter) to maintain a firm connection | | | | else of health? It sounds ridiculous, but that is the |
| to source while accessing the lower emotional levels. | | | | sort of mind-set that exists on our planet! If Stephen |
| In fact, that is the only way to raise tone, for | | | | Hawking is a genius, do we tell him not to hog all of |
| without establishing a vibrational potential there can | | | | the intelligence? These examples are exaggerations, |
| be no movement up the scale. This is counseling at | | | | but they serve to illustrate the idea that although |
| its very best! (This is the system that Dr. Rosenberg | | | | mankind is very good at dreaming up more and more |
| uses in his Non-Violent Communication methodology). | | | | ways to amplify scarcity, the universe contains an |
| In other words, it is up to you to be the positive | | | | infinity of abundance. As with health and clarity, so |
| pole in the relationship. | | | | too with prosperity, no matter what form it takes. |
| It turns out that ALL help is vibrational/emotional help. | | | | "If everyone on earth asked for and received |
| For example, you join a group which passes out food | | | | abundance, all of our resources would quickly be |
| to the needy. This is a very helpful activity, but | | | | exhausted, and pollution would destroy our planet." |
| without a vibrational movement on the part of the | | | | That's if the status quo (fossil fuels) continues. |
| recipients up the scale, conditions for them will not | | | | However, the reason we have scarce fossil fuels is a |
| change. You will constantly be catching fish, instead | | | | consciousness which mirrors scarcity into the physical |
| of teaching how to fish. This again is a simple | | | | universe. When that consciousness shifts to one of |
| application of the Law of Vibration and the Law of | | | | prosperity, cleaner and more efficient sources of |
| 'like attracts like.' Help in the form of physical | | | | energy will be developed in response. It is silly to use |
| assistance only postpones the inevitable vibrational | | | | the status quo to argue for the impossibility of a |
| reckoning, for life experiences (Flows 1 - 3) are | | | | shift in consciousness, when it is a state of |
| determined by what occurs on Flow 0. | | | | consciousness which is responsible for the status quo! |
| Before giving, you have to fill your tank first. | | | | Is it really "better to give than to receive?" |
| When you receive, however, you do not deprive | | | | Giving without first receiving drains a person's |
| another. | | | | reserves and causes stress. And it's no wonder that |
| It's always possible to fill up at the gas station of | | | | it does, for the idea that it is better to give than to |
| positive emotion without harming anyone else. You | | | | receive is unbalanced. Receiving automatically opens |
| don't have to come cash in hand and exchange for | | | | the energy stream not only for you, but for |
| your share. It's not possible to run out of life force | | | | everyone else. Have you ever been in the presence |
| energy, so gorge yourself. The better you feel, the | | | | of someone truly joyful? It just feels so good! That |
| more valuable is your service to others. | | | | is what happens when a person connects to the |
| It is always appropriate to feel good, no matter the | | | | energy of life. |
| circumstances. | | | | The primary attitude should be to allow one's self to |
| Some feel that it is inappropriate to feel happiness | | | | freely receive, which allows giving from a sense of |
| when others are sad. Some counselors feel that in | | | | joy and love. Receiving must come before giving. |
| order to be there for the client, they must feel the | | | | Even in a closed system, a battery cannot supply |
| client's pain, but this only serves to stick both client | | | | energy unless it is charged. |