| Many people believe that having a baby is a | | | | save a marriage, those initial feelings are |
| first class ticket to save a marriage, a | | | | likely to increase tenfold totally destroying |
| quick fix to often unrelated marital | | | | the foundations of the marriage and creating |
| problems. It is often thought that the | | | | issues that drive the partners much further |
| miracle of a new life will bring a renewed | | | | apart rather than helping to save the |
| bond to a relationship, distract the partners | | | | marriage. |
| from what is causing their unrest and | | | | |
| ultimately save the marriage. | | | | Don't just think a baby can fix all, it's |
| | | | unfair to the marriage and unfair to the |
| The belief that babies can fix marriage | | | | child. Children should never be 'used' in a |
| problems and that having a baby is an ideal | | | | marriage, relationship problems are an adult |
| way to help save a marriage is definitely a | | | | issue from which children should be |
| myth. Marriage certainly isn't easy when | | | | protected, where possible, and kept well |
| there are just two people in the relationship | | | | away. Children do not save marriages, it is |
| to consider, a third can just add fuel to the | | | | the actions of their parents that can resolve |
| fire. | | | | marriage issues. Couples have to just learn |
| | | | to open up communication lines and tackle the |
| A new baby in your life is never easy, even | | | | root cause, making an effort in a |
| when born into the most loving and fulfilled | | | | relationship is what saves a marriage and not |
| marriage. Babies are demanding, sap all there | | | | looking for a temporary distraction. |
| parent's energy in the early months and can | | | | |
| play havoc with a marriage. I'm not saying | | | | I leave you with a few little nuggets of |
| that a baby can't bring partners closer | | | | wisdom to consider: |
| together but in an already strained marriage | | | | |
| where marital relations have already broken | | | | If you are struggling to save your marriage |
| down for reasons other than the lack of a | | | | through your inability to conceive did you |
| child, a new baby is unlikely to fix the | | | | really love your partner in the first place? |
| problem nor save a marriage. | | | | A strong marriage should be able to survive |
| | | | anything, your partner should mean everything |
| Even if a marital rift has been created | | | | to you with baby or not. At the end of the |
| because one partner wants a baby and the | | | | day there are many unwanted children in this |
| other doesn't having a baby regardless can | | | | world that are in desperate need of loving |
| just cause resentment and further disharmony | | | | parents. Does blood line really mean that |
| in a marriage. If the partner who wanted to | | | | much and your marriage so little? |
| remain childless doesn't fall immediately in | | | | |
| love with the new little bundle of life then, | | | | Don't get married until you are both aware of |
| rather than save a marriage, your marriage | | | | and respect each others desires and needs |
| problems will increase ten fold. | | | | with regard to children. Never assume that |
| | | | once you are married you can get your partner |
| A newborn baby can make the father feel | | | | to come around to your way of thinking. Don't |
| isolated, unloved, left out and unwanted. A | | | | wait until things go wrong save the marriage |
| mother can feel totally overwhelmed and | | | | before it even starts by going into the |
| trapped into a life of never ending feeding, | | | | marriage with your eyes open! |
| crying and nappies cut off from the outside | | | | |
| world. If either one didn't actually want the | | | | Having a baby never has been and never will |
| child then going ahead regardless won't help | | | | be a quick fix to save a marriage. |