| Many people believe that having a baby is a first | | | | tenfold totally destroying the foundations of the |
| class ticket to save a marriage, a quick fix to often | | | | marriage and creating issues that drive the partners |
| unrelated marital problems. It is often thought that | | | | much further apart rather than helping to save the |
| the miracle of a new life will bring a renewed bond to | | | | marriage. |
| a relationship, distract the partners from what is | | | | Don't just think a baby can fix all, it's unfair to the |
| causing their unrest and ultimately save the marriage. | | | | marriage and unfair to the child. Children should never |
| The belief that babies can fix marriage problems and | | | | be 'used' in a marriage, relationship problems are an |
| that having a baby is an ideal way to help save a | | | | adult issue from which children should be protected, |
| marriage is definitely a myth. Marriage certainly isn't | | | | where possible, and kept well away. Children do not |
| easy when there are just two people in the | | | | save marriages, it is the actions of their parents that |
| relationship to consider, a third can just add fuel to | | | | can resolve marriage issues. Couples have to just |
| the fire. | | | | learn to open up communication lines and tackle the |
| A new baby in your life is never easy, even when | | | | root cause, making an effort in a relationship is what |
| born into the most loving and fulfilled marriage. Babies | | | | saves a marriage and not looking for a temporary |
| are demanding, sap all there parent's energy in the | | | | distraction. |
| early months and can play havoc with a marriage. I'm | | | | I leave you with a few little nuggets of wisdom to |
| not saying that a baby can't bring partners closer | | | | consider: |
| together but in an already strained marriage where | | | | If you are struggling to save your marriage through |
| marital relations have already broken down for | | | | your inability to conceive did you really love your |
| reasons other than the lack of a child, a new baby is | | | | partner in the first place? A strong marriage should |
| unlikely to fix the problem nor save a marriage. | | | | be able to survive anything, your partner should |
| Even if a marital rift has been created because one | | | | mean everything to you with baby or not. At the |
| partner wants a baby and the other doesn't having a | | | | end of the day there are many unwanted children in |
| baby regardless can just cause resentment and | | | | this world that are in desperate need of loving |
| further disharmony in a marriage. If the partner who | | | | parents. Does blood line really mean that much and |
| wanted to remain childless doesn't fall immediately in | | | | your marriage so little? |
| love with the new little bundle of life then, rather | | | | Don't get married until you are both aware of and |
| than save a marriage, your marriage problems will | | | | respect each others desires and needs with regard |
| increase ten fold. | | | | to children. Never assume that once you are married |
| A newborn baby can make the father feel isolated, | | | | you can get your partner to come around to your |
| unloved, left out and unwanted. A mother can feel | | | | way of thinking. Don't wait until things go wrong save |
| totally overwhelmed and trapped into a life of never | | | | the marriage before it even starts by going into the |
| ending feeding, crying and nappies cut off from the | | | | marriage with your eyes open! |
| outside world. If either one didn't actually want the | | | | Having a baby never has been and never will be a |
| child then going ahead regardless won't help save a | | | | quick fix to save a marriage. |
| marriage, those initial feelings are likely to increase | | | | |