| Grieving is an act of love. It begins
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| | depths of our being where the greatest
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| when someone or something you love is
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| | loss is registered.
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| lost, and the stronger the love the
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| | Release And Resolution. This stage of the
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| greater the grief. The act of grieving
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| | grief process is accompanied by a sense
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| honors you and the significance of your
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| | of acceptance of the reality of the loss,
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| loss.
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| | a sense of "letting go." There may also
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| The longer you live the more loss you
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| | be a degree of forgiveness that occurs in
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| experience. In order to grieve in healthy
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| | this phase. The denial, guilt and anger
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| ways, you need to understand the stages
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| | stages are over, and the pain and sorrow
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| of the grief process itself.
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| | is not as intense as it was before. Many
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| Shock. This is the body/mind's way of
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| | people ask, "How long does it take?" The
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| saving you from the devastating pain of
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| | answer is different according to the
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| the loss, at least initially. It is a
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| | severity of the loss and the health of
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| blessing at best, but at worst can become
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| | the individual who is grieving. Grieving
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| a long-term numbness to feelings that
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| | moves in cycles, and it may seem as if we
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| resembles a sort of living death. It will
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| | are through for a substantial period of
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| pass naturally as long as the other
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| | time. A birthday, anniversary or another
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| components of the grief process are
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| | loss can bring back many of the same
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| honored.
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| | feelings that were there when our loved
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| Denial. This is your mind's attempt to
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| | one died. Any loss or low emotional
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| protect you from the reality of the loss.
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| | period can bring back the feelings of
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| You may lie to yourself and think about
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| | loss, particularly if you have not
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| the person as if they were still alive. A
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| | reached resolution. When the release
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| certain period of denial is normal but if
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| | finally occurs, your entire body will
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| prolonged, it can keep you stuck and
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| | feel it. I have watched many people go
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| prevent resolution. There are many forms
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| | through emotional release in their
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| of denial, as varied as people are
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| | grieving, and I am convinced that it is
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| different from each other.
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| | as much a physical, non-verbal process as
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| Anger. When you lose someone you love, it
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| | it is verbal and conscious.
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| is natural to be angry for a period of
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| | Return To the Willingness To Love. This
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| time. You may be angry with the person
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| | is the final stage of the grieving
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| for leaving you, angry with yourself for
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| | process. Healing has occurred, and the
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| what you did not do to save them or angry
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| | grieving person is able to laugh again
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| with God for taking them away. You may
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| | and to get involved in life. Fear can
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| just be angry at the unfairness and
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| | slow you down or even stop you at this
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| injustice of life. Healthy anger
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| | point, because new love means the risk of
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| management techniques may be essential
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| | new loss. By honoring and completing all
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| here.
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| | aspects of the grief process, however,
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| Guilt. There seems to be a human tendency
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| | you will overcome your fear and move
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| to blame yourself when something happens
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| | forward. This occurs through an
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| to a loved one. In loving someone, you
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| | appreciation for yourself and the life
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| automatically take some degree of
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| | you are left to live. Nurturing your
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| responsibility for her or his welfare. It
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| | inner child is an excellent tool to use
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| is only natural to question yourself for
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| | to help you through the entire grief
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| a period of time after your loved ones
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| | process, and particularly as you move
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| die. This is a normal part of the grief
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| | back out "into the world" after a period
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| process, but it is extremely important
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| | of grieving. Part of the return to love
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| that you move through it and don't get
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| | also includes remembering the love you
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| stuck in this stage.
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| | felt for the one you lost. The love lives
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| Pain And Sorrow. These feelings often
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| | on and the anger, guilt, pain and sorrow
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| exist throughout the entire grief
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| | fade away.
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| process, and are the core feelings of
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| | This final stage of the grief process is
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| grief. In the early stages, however, you
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| | ultimately a spiritual one. It is a fact
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| are often distracted from your sorrow by
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| | that all of us on this planet will die.
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| denial, anger, guilt and the resulting
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| | You need to have some way of living,
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| confusion. Fear can also be a tremendous
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| | laughing and loving with this reality.
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| barrier to the experience of sorrow,
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| | That's where spirituality comes in. True
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| triggering all of the defense mechanisms.
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| | security cannot be found in another
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| To truly face and experience the pain and
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| | person or in any external circumstances.
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| sorrow is necessary and healthy however,
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| | You have to turn within, to your own
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| and it moves you forward in the grief
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| | concept of the infinite, to ultimately
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| process. Working with love is the key for
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| | find peace and security in a life that is
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| moving through this phase, because only
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| | only temporary in its tangible form.
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| love has the power to move us to the
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